Romance, Finance and Nuisance
What up y’all? Interesting things came up on the show today. First the whole pre-nup conversation. The question: Pre-nups, yes or no? The overwhelming response was “Yes!” Those that did disagree used the argument that you are expecting your marriage to fail and that it’s the wrong mindset to use when entering into a marriage. Baltazar is against them and his reasoning is that he believes in romance and love being the reason for marriage and pre-nups go against that.
My take: first I go either way about marriage. I’ve never been married and don’t feel it’s necessary for a committed loving relationship to exist. The exception for me would be if I chose to have children with someone. This does not mean I’m against marriage, I’m just more about the relationship than the party and papers that celebrate it. That being said I think our attitude (and by our I mean Americans) about marriage is a bit naive. We like to think we will honor and live out those vows but the truth of the matter is only about half of us do. You would be hard pressed to find anyone on their wedding day with the flush of love in their cheeks, sparkle of love in their eyes breathlessly repeating their vows in front of God, State and everyone of their closest relatives and friends to even entertain the thought they won’t feel this way forever but the the reality is: half of them won’t.
Of that half, some will be mature and split things fairly and move on, others depending on why they are splitting will have the knock down drag out fight of their lives on their hands. We all like to think that the people we choose to be in a relationship with are incapable of hurting or betraying us on purpose but that happens when we are just dating and most of us didn’t see it coming. Add some assets to the mix and you are asking for trouble.
I’m not saying every couple needs a pre-nup. If you are on equal footing (close in age, accomplishments and finances) it’s probably not necessary but if one of you is significantly older, or wealthier or more accomplished in life, I would at least consider it. For those of you who say it’s predicting the marriage will fail or taking the love and romance out of things let me remind you that marriage is a legally binding contract already. You have to sign a license in order to do it and get divorced in order to legally be un-married so the government already knows there is a chance things will go south otherwise we would be married without the government’s involvement. That being said, I don’t see anything wrong with going one step further and letting me and my husband to-be decide on the allocation of our assets should our marriage fail rather than letting the government do it.
Now to the issue of “manscaping”, most callers said it’s a “Do” and that’s men and women. I’m fine if you do fine if you don’t but a bit of trimming would be preferred. However, the only bald areas I want to see on a man are above the waist and if you’re going to make me “rumble in the jungle” you better use some conditioner and a comb there Tarzan or no safari!